GeneralSUPER weird circumstance, need dating advice!
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Long story short I've never been on a date though I did date a girl for 5 years. That was more of a really good friend situation I guess though? Anyway we broke up a couple years ago and I haven't been on a date since. I'm 20 years old so I decided to get on the best dating apps available, namely Tinder and Bumble lol.

Anyway I've been talking to this girl for all of 24 hours and she's asking for my number and asking me out. That's weird as it is, but she's 22 and has also never been on a date or in a relationship!

Last night she asked me out on a coffee date tomorrow. I've never had coffee before but she knows that so I'm not worried about that, what I'm worried about is what do I do! I've never been on a date before and she's cute and seems nice so obviously I don't want to screw it up. Of course I've Googled what to do and to sum it up they say "don't be an idiot". Any other advice?

We have a couple decent topics to talk about, she doesn't drive and she said that's an in person conversation she'll tell me, then she asked me what else I haven't tried. I could only think of drugs and alcohol lol but she said she didn't have her first kiss and I haven't either. She asked why and I told her it's a LONG story but I'm not sure if it's really a first date topic as it has to do with the night I lost my virginity. I love the story and I think it's funny so I don't care who knows but everything I read says to never bring up your ex on a first date. Long story short below:


Helped my ex move, she had a plan to "do the deed" and after she was crying because her grandma is really religious (grandma is dead) and believed in no sex until marriage. I tried to think of what we haven't done and kiss was one of them so I told her to keep her kiss sacred. That's the long story short as to why I haven't had my first kiss, tons of back story of course but that's irrelevant lol.

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Never try and put an act on when you're going for dates, it may be a long time since you've been on a date but don't worry about that just be cool, calm and collective
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Listen here 002,

I myself have been on 10's of thousands of dates if not millions, I navigate through tinder better then my own neighborhood (I've lived here 15 years).

First off you're off to a good start you have nothing to be worried about the fact that she is initiating meeting up is a great sign shes a lioness and she has spotted her prey (you). With her initiating it shows she has some dominance in her which is a good sign cause that will come into play during your first date or two when there is the possibility of an awkward silence or a new conversation topic needs to be brought into the game.

Okay for the date part, coffee is a great first date it can either be super fast if you need to abort mission or it can carry on for awhile as both parties get lost in conversation and great connection is made. You need to be yourself on the first date this is crucial, you cant pretend to be somebody you arent because what happens if the dates progress you end up in a fake relationship. Don't be afraid to talk about your interests you guys gotta find some stuff in common just think of it like fishing your interests is the bait and you need to cast it out there to see if shes interested on your bait (common interests is key to keep conversation flowing). Your past conversations are great playing cards to keep in your back pocket if conversation ever seems stale just ask a question about something you guys have had a previous conversation on this could be something as simply just asking a question.

After checking out a few of your posts you seem like a sick dude and you got that fresh f-350 king ranch you pick her up in that testosterone pumping machine you're gonna score points right off the start. I wouldn't bring up the ex thing right at the start that's something you could tell her down the road once you guys are comfortable with each other if you feel she would find it funny and wouldn't get jealous or act weird hearing the story.

Bro good luck let us know how it goes i'd stay away from the coffee man its gonna make you all shaky and anxious you don't wanna be all stunned on your first date
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Boobson wrote Listen here 002,

I myself have been on 10's of thousands of dates if not millions, I navigate through tinder better then my own neighborhood (I've lived here 15 years).

First off you're off to a good start you have nothing to be worried about the fact that she is initiating meeting up is a great sign shes a lioness and she has spotted her prey (you). With her initiating it shows she has some dominance in her which is a good sign cause that will come into play during your first date or two when there is the possibility of an awkward silence or a new conversation topic needs to be brought into the game.

Okay for the date part, coffee is a great first date it can either be super fast if you need to abort mission or it can carry on for awhile as both parties get lost in conversation and great connection is made. You need to be yourself on the first date this is crucial, you cant pretend to be somebody you arent because what happens if the dates progress you end up in a fake relationship. Don't be afraid to talk about your interests you guys gotta find some stuff in common just think of it like fishing your interests is the bait and you need to cast it out there to see if shes interested on your bait (common interests is key to keep conversation flowing). Your past conversations are great playing cards to keep in your back pocket if conversation ever seems stale just ask a question about something you guys have had a previous conversation on this could be something as simply just asking a question.

After checking out a few of your posts you seem like a sick dude and you got that fresh f-350 king ranch you pick her up in that testosterone pumping machine you're gonna score points right off the start. I wouldn't bring up the ex thing right at the start that's something you could tell her down the road once you guys are comfortable with each other if you feel she would find it funny and wouldn't get jealous or act weird hearing the story.

Bro good luck let us know how it goes i'd stay away from the coffee man its gonna make you all shaky and anxious you don't wanna be all stunned on your first date


Exactly what he said^
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Whatever you do, don't say 'My therapist tells me that I should really stop talking to my ex.' and you should be alright
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Boobson wrote Listen here 002,

I myself have been on 10's of thousands of dates if not millions, I navigate through tinder better then my own neighborhood (I've lived here 15 years).

First off you're off to a good start you have nothing to be worried about the fact that she is initiating meeting up is a great sign shes a lioness and she has spotted her prey (you). With her initiating it shows she has some dominance in her which is a good sign cause that will come into play during your first date or two when there is the possibility of an awkward silence or a new conversation topic needs to be brought into the game.

Okay for the date part, coffee is a great first date it can either be super fast if you need to abort mission or it can carry on for awhile as both parties get lost in conversation and great connection is made. You need to be yourself on the first date this is crucial, you cant pretend to be somebody you arent because what happens if the dates progress you end up in a fake relationship. Don't be afraid to talk about your interests you guys gotta find some stuff in common just think of it like fishing your interests is the bait and you need to cast it out there to see if shes interested on your bait (common interests is key to keep conversation flowing). Your past conversations are great playing cards to keep in your back pocket if conversation ever seems stale just ask a question about something you guys have had a previous conversation on this could be something as simply just asking a question.

After checking out a few of your posts you seem like a sick dude and you got that fresh f-350 king ranch you pick her up in that testosterone pumping machine you're gonna score points right off the start. I wouldn't bring up the ex thing right at the start that's something you could tell her down the road once you guys are comfortable with each other if you feel she would find it funny and wouldn't get jealous or act weird hearing the story.

Bro good luck let us know how it goes i'd stay away from the coffee man its gonna make you all shaky and anxious you don't wanna be all stunned on your first date


This guy is the shining star in my TTG life! Thanks so much! Hopefully her initiating everything is a good sign, couple things that worry me with that but that's my own insecurities that have nothing to do with anything lol.

Hopefully the coffee is a good idea, I don't drink any caffeine (I live off water and Gatorade) so I might be all whacked out like I'm on crack lol, hopefully I can control that though! Honestly we're both pretty different which is another odd thing. She's 2 years older which is a weird concept to me for some reason, but the 2 biggest thing is she doesn't drive and she smokes pot. Vehicle are my life pretty much and I don't smoke. The good thing is it seems like we're both on the same page that I respect that she smokes and she respects that I don't. Going forward I don't know how that will play out as I'm not against pot by any means, I just don't like it around me I guess? We both like to explore though which is good because since she doesn't drive she hasn't seen much outside of her town so later on a road trip might be a cute date.

The truck has been an issue on past Tinder conversations actually lol because after seeing that and telling them what I do for work, they think I'm rich. One of them said "oh, WE must be rich" lol.

I'll definitely keep you guys updated! The date is tomorrow evening and she's an hour and a half away so expect an update Saturday morning / afternoon!
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Just act normal, if it's meant to be you'll be fine. If not, don't worry about it. There's a lot of girls out there.
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Privileged wrote Just act normal, if it's meant to be you'll be fine. If not, don't worry about it. There's a lot of girls out there.
this sounds so cliche but im telling you it's true just be yourself
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