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Hmm the guy who normally gives out advice is asking for it! Lol weird haha.

The more you worry, the worse it can be for you bud. The best advice is to be yourself as half of TTG know you're an amazing member and always support others.
Just go on the date, be a man and have fun, ask her what she likes to do etc the more about her, the more confidence she will gain and you will off it. Maybe get a 2nd date. Ohh and throw in a few compliments now and again, just not to many
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You'll be ite just assert your dominance
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Jay wrote Hmm the guy who normally gives out advice is asking for it! Lol weird haha.

The more you worry, the worse it can be for you bud. The best advice is to be yourself as half of TTG know you're an amazing member and always support others.
Just go on the date, be a man and have fun, ask her what she likes to do etc the more about her, the more confidence she will gain and you will off it. Maybe get a 2nd date. Ohh and throw in a few compliments now and again, just not to many


Weird right?


If you have time, here's a full story, sorry it's so long with probably a bunch of useless info lol.
So this has been killing me for the better part of the day. Before we went out last night she asked if this was a date and at first I said lol yeah because I thought she was joking (she said we should go on a coffee date) but then I realized she probably wasn't so I texted back saying it can be what ever you want, you might hate me at the end of the night and never want to talk to me again. I didn't word it like that but you get the idea, I didn't want to freak her out because it's her first date as well.

We were talking again this morning and she asked what I was doing and I was fixing some things that I had mentioned last night (it's hard to explain and way to long to type lol but picture like fixing the fence or something). I said "hopefully that'll be fixed before I see you again *laughing emoji*" to which she responded "*laughing emoji* lol. speaking of which, want to do next Friday again?" Anyway, that's a long way of saying we're going out again next Friday.

Now the hard part is figuring out what this is. We had talked about the whole "is this a date" thing and even in her profile she says "looking for friends, maybe a relationship?" and I'm still not sure how she's trying to view this. Obviously we're two very different people, she's 2 years older than me, drinks, and smokes pot and I do not drink or smoke (don't worry, it's legal here). We've had similar life experiences so we kinda connected on that but I'm not sure if it's a friend connection or more than a friend connection?

And now the challenging part. I started texting her and another girl literally on the same day. Say girl 1 is who I went out with last night and girl 2 is the other 1. Girl 2 asked if we could go out Thursday. Of course I've never met her and she seems nice over text, but I really like girl 1. We connected on a few levels and we both just wanted the night not to end, we were together for 8 hours lol. Right now I feel really bad that I'm talking to 2 girls and they both don't know, even though from the sounds of it that's normal in online dating? I don't know. Like I feel really bad that I'm just talking to both of them, honestly I feel like dirt just thinking of going out with girl 2 then girl 1 again the day after.

The other issue with that is they both live in the same town which is an hour away from me but that's not a problem, the problem is it's a REALLY small town. The odds of them knowing each other is slim, but the odds of girl 1 finding girl 2 and I together is actually pretty high because girl 1 roams around the city. Girl 1 is so shy and innocent that I don't know if she understands the dating multiple people thing or likes it? For me I get people do it, I just don't want to do it because I feel bad lol.

So now my question is what do I do? Do I ask girl 1 how she feels about "us"? Do I delay girl 2 until after the second meeting with girl 1? Also from an environment like Tinder or Bumble or online dating like, if a girl is looking for a relationship is it normal to start out as friends first? If everything goes well, how long should I wait until I actually ask her to be my girlfriend? The last to questions aren't specific to this girl, just in general for future reference.

Also as I'm typing this, I'm talking to girl 1 and we might meet up tomorrow? Slim possibility but maybe. Also we're now friends on Facebook.


For those of you who don't have the time to read, I totally understand lol. In general, my questions are:
1. If I went out on a date with a girl and I really like her however I don't know how she feels about me, and there's another girl that wants to go out, should I ask the first girl how she feels about me to get an idea as to if there's a possibility for a relationship?
2. From an environment like Tinder or Bumble or online dating like, if a girl is looking for a relationship is it normal to start out as friends first?
3. If everything goes well, how long should I wait until I actually ask her to be my girlfriend?
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1. Don't put all your cards on the table from the off mate. You need to play it cool but ask her on the date questions about her. What she does in her free time, what food she likes. Show interest in her. If she likes you, she will say yes to a 2nd date.

2. If the date all goes well then you will be considered friends really until you ask her out or she asks you. All depends on the first date mate.

3. Timing is everything. And that question is a hard one to answer. I asked my gf out like 3 weeks after we dated. But we was together in high school so for me it was an easier situation haha. Maybe on the 2nd date if she agrees to it.

Hope this all works out for you mate. You're a great guy!
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