Nugatory wrote So, 6 years ago, my mom told me after I found her smoking (which is a big deal for me) she said she'd stop. So, 1 month ago, I found her smoking I watched for 30mins, she smoked 4 cigs in total, I then finally walked out side and said that'd be $80 thank you,(I have a thing if I catch her smoking she gives me $20), so today, I walked outside to ask her a simple question and find her smoking, so I took the cig threw it on the ground and said if you want to end your life then go **** smoke more, she then walked into her room and handed me the packs of cigs, I took them all out, 29 and washed them just making sure it's impossible for her to light. I told her if she wants to die, then **** it die. If you're gonna be a terrible mom and lie to me 6 years ago saying you would quit that day (which she didn't I found her 10mins after that with another cig) then she can go get cancer and I wouldn't be there to say bye, I'm 15 and can't really do anything about it. What's the best way to approach this?

Since your 15 you can't really do much I would just stay away from her and stay with a friend for a while and maybe when she is alone she will realize what she has done wrong my grandpa has been smoking since he was 16 and now he is 82 he knew I hated smokers so he stopped smoking when I told him

In my opinion, you have over stepped your boundaries. My mom smokes as well, and like you, I hate it. Smoking is hard to quit, plain and simple. The thing is, if she is smoking outside then there is no impact on your life. What she does with her life is her problem. You can tell her how you feel but from what you wrote, you WAY overstepped your boundaries.

I don't know how long your mom has been smoking, but mine has been smoking since she was 12 (She is like 45 or 46 now). Asking her to quit smoking is like her asking me to quit peeing.

Tell her how you feel and giver her subtle hints. Say you are in the car and she starts smoking. Don't tell her to put it out, just tell her you would appreciate it if she wouldn't smoke around you. Past that man, it's life, and life sucks. You can't fix the world to your liking.

Honestly so I'm sorry you have to go threw this its very unfortunate. The only way I know how you deal with this is she is going to do what she want to do you can not make someone change. You can only support them in changing, She has to realize she could be losing a son if she continues to smoke. An Until then she is going to continue with the habit so I suggest you show your not bluffing. Make sure she knows what she could be losing. She will realize cus you and me both know she loves you more than those cigarettes. But just always remember you can not change someone you can only influence the change and make the change be for the better. I had to deal with this when my mother was put in the hospital for the habit I told her you quit or you lose me and I help her quit I never thought she was smoking again and I'm still confident today she hasnt smoked, Its been over two years and I'm so proud of her. I promise you that she will give it up just show her love and support and the change will happen. Have a blessed rest of your day.

Try talking her down.

It's a really different situation for me and yourself, because where I'm from, so many people smoke - so it's normal for me to see my loved ones do it..
Just speak to her properly and tell her you don't want to watch her fade away in front of your own eyes.
I'm also sorry you're having to go through this.

Shit I wished my mom give me $20 every time I seen her smoking I be a millionaire now

But as 002 was saying it seems you have went over board with the caring about her smoking I mean if she is doing it outside its different so be thankful she is smoking outside, my mom could give one less shit about smoking in front of me or in the house so like I sound be thankful your not getting the cancer with her. Plus has she tried some of the different ways to stop smoking like vapes, gums, or the patches?

002 wrote In my opinion, you have over stepped your boundaries. My mom smokes as well, and like you, I hate it. Smoking is hard to quit, plain and simple. The thing is, if she is smoking outside then there is no impact on your life. What she does with her life is her problem. You can tell her how you feel but from what you wrote, you WAY overstepped your boundaries.

I don't know how long your mom has been smoking, but mine has been smoking since she was 12 (She is like 45 or 46 now). Asking her to quit smoking is like her asking me to quit peeing.

Tell her how you feel and giver her subtle hints. Say you are in the car and she starts smoking. Don't tell her to put it out, just tell her you would appreciate it if she wouldn't smoke around you. Past that man, it's life, and life sucks. You can't fix the world to your liking.

The no impact on your life part is false. Down the road you have to deal with them getting lung cancer and watch them die

If I was you, I would sit down with your mother and explain how the smoking is effecting you. Your mum obviously cares about you but one must be understanding and supportive.

Your mum clearly needs some support to help break the habit but getting angry and shouting at her won't help at all - if anything it will make it a lot worse. Some form of an intervention with your close family would be a good idea. Though, you have to know that she definitely wants to quit in the first place as parents often say things that their children want to hear.

If she doesn't want to quit then there is nothing you can do. At the end of the day, it's her life and she can choose how to live it.



@002 The point is Nugatory's mum has said that she wants to quit smoking in the first place. It's obvious that she just doesn't have the support to do so on her own.

You don't tell her to die d!ckhead

My Mom & Dad used to smoke, but they quit about 2years ago they're using "E-Cigarettes / Sheeshas" They've liquids which have nicotine in but nothing else, so it's not harming you. they went on them 2years ago and have not touched a *** since, try getting your mom one of these you can find a article which tells you how much MG nicotine is right for you depending on how many **** you smoke a day

*I use the word F*g for a cigarette and when i put it in it censored them so yeah the *** is cigarette*