3OH3 wrote

002 wrote In my opinion, you have over stepped your boundaries. My mom smokes as well, and like you, I hate it. Smoking is hard to quit, plain and simple. The thing is, if she is smoking outside then there is no impact on your life. What she does with her life is her problem. You can tell her how you feel but from what you wrote, you WAY overstepped your boundaries.

I don't know how long your mom has been smoking, but mine has been smoking since she was 12 (She is like 45 or 46 now). Asking her to quit smoking is like her asking me to quit peeing.

Tell her how you feel and giver her subtle hints. Say you are in the car and she starts smoking. Don't tell her to put it out, just tell her you would appreciate it if she wouldn't smoke around you. Past that man, it's life, and life sucks. You can't fix the world to your liking.

Nah dude if I found my mom or dad smoking I'd do what OP did. If you actually cared about your parents you wouldn't say "I'd appreciate it if you didn't kill yourself" you'd probably do what OP did.

Excuse me? It is basic human nature to do the opposite of what people tell you to do. Your mom tells you don't get a cookie from the cookie jar. An hour later they are gone and where are your hands? In the damn cookie jar.

If you had an ounce of respect for your parents, you wouldn't be telling them how to live their lives, but rather that you wish they wouldn't do certain activities around you.

if i told my mum or dad to go die or get cancer , i would be dead myself



that's a little far dude just for smoking if she was sticking needles in her veins yeah maybe

Its not as easy as you think. My mom finally quit after 20+ years of smoking... I was very proud of her. I always told her she needs to stop smoking because its very bad for you but she kept on. She tried all kinds of different options to quit smoking.. She tried Chantix which gave her crazy dreams about her deceased mother and father and it freaked her out. So she stopped doing it and started smoking again, but to quit smoking you have to want to quit, its not as easy as not buying them and shit. But she finally quit after all these years. She keeps the same 3 packs of cigarettes in the fridge shelve to remind her that she does have them but don't ever touch them. Once they do and if they do finally stop smoking they go to something else. My mom now eats more then she ever has before and has gained a lot of weight. She isn't near over weight but she has gained weight and you can tell. But she is exercising a lot now and trying to live a healthier life style.

002 wrote

3OH3 wrote

002 wrote In my opinion, you have over stepped your boundaries. My mom smokes as well, and like you, I hate it. Smoking is hard to quit, plain and simple. The thing is, if she is smoking outside then there is no impact on your life. What she does with her life is her problem. You can tell her how you feel but from what you wrote, you WAY overstepped your boundaries.

I don't know how long your mom has been smoking, but mine has been smoking since she was 12 (She is like 45 or 46 now). Asking her to quit smoking is like her asking me to quit peeing.

Tell her how you feel and giver her subtle hints. Say you are in the car and she starts smoking. Don't tell her to put it out, just tell her you would appreciate it if she wouldn't smoke around you. Past that man, it's life, and life sucks. You can't fix the world to your liking.

Nah dude if I found my mom or dad smoking I'd do what OP did. If you actually cared about your parents you wouldn't say "I'd appreciate it if you didn't kill yourself" you'd probably do what OP did.

Excuse me? It is basic human nature to do the opposite of what people tell you to do. Your mom tells you don't get a cookie from the cookie jar. An hour later they are gone and where are your hands? In the damn cookie jar.

If you had an ounce of respect for your parents, you wouldn't be telling them how to live their lives, but rather that you wish they wouldn't do certain activities around you.

"ounce of respect"

lol every single one of my grand parents died from smoking and same with a few of my aunts and uncles. I have a ton of respect with them but physical addictions are hard to kick. Tough love is a thing kid

-Mike wrote

Nugatory wrote So, 6 years ago, my mom told me after I found her smoking (which is a big deal for me) she said she'd stop. So, 1 month ago, I found her smoking I watched for 30mins, she smoked 4 cigs in total, I then finally walked out side and said that'd be $80 thank you,(I have a thing if I catch her smoking she gives me $20), so today, I walked outside to ask her a simple question and find her smoking, so I took the cig threw it on the ground and said if you want to end your life then go **** smoke more, she then walked into her room and handed me the packs of cigs, I took them all out, 29 and washed them just making sure it's impossible for her to light. I told her if she wants to die, then **** it die. If you're gonna be a terrible mom and lie to me 6 years ago saying you would quit that day (which she didn't I found her 10mins after that with another cig) then she can go get cancer and I wouldn't be there to say bye, I'm 15 and can't really do anything about it. What's the best way to approach this?

Since your 15 you can't really do much I would just stay away from her and stay with a friend for a while and maybe when she is alone she will realize what she has done wrong my grandpa has been smoking since he was 16 and now he is 82 he knew I hated smokers so he stopped smoking when I told him

This isn't the best idea. You can't just move out like that. Smoking is very addicting and hard to just put it down and stop.. Leaving her isn't going to do much but get her stressed and smoke even more. Just give it time and let her know that she is killing herself slowly. Also I would go to her and apologize for saying that to her, she might have lied to you which is wrong but its not easy to just quit after you have been smoking for years.