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So let me start of by introducing my self. My name is Christien. I'm 19 years old. About 2 months ago I woke up around 11am and walking in my moms room because that's where my dog was and I was gonna take him out. My mother was still sleeping which I found odd because she usually wakes up around 8am. The thing that bothered me though was how she was laying. Here head was dropped down as if she was looking at her toes and her arms were sprawled out as if she was making a snow angel. I tried yelling her name and no response. I grabbed her arm and even tried to shake her thinking it would wake her up. I almost pulled her out of bed and still no respond. I checked her blood pressure and that appeared to be fine and then I checked her blood sugar and it was 23 which is extremely low. Turns out she went into a coma. Its been about 2 months and shes been kinda coming back but then just hit a wall and stopped. She will open her eyes and follow you, cry every once in a while, but she cant do stuff on command very often like squeeze your hand. About a week ago, its like she woke up and tried strangling my step dad. It came out of nowhere. She also said clear as day "I don't Understand", And " I hurt", so we thought omg shes talking so I went to go visit and she didn't recognize me at all. She didn't say anything while I was there but I gave her a kiss and started to walk out and she put her finger up and said wait. Ever since Friday, shes been pretty much back to not talking. I Know everyone handles things differently but my mom was my best friend. I never had to go through anything like this and my mom is only 43. Shes too young for all thins. Now when this first happened, I didn't visit her in the hospital because I was always too scared to see her like that. The doctors had a meeting with me and my family when it happened and they gave us a choice, "Pull the plug and let her die peacefully" or "Keep her on life support and see if she wakes up" After all, She did have MODORATE brain damage. Keep in mind her brain can come back on she can be completely back to normal, But its just a waiting game and each day that goes by, its least likely she will recover. Now this is really hard for me and ive never had to go though any of this so if anyone can give me some advice, that would be great!


PS: I know this is very personal and its a lot but I felt I needed to tell the whole story and see if anyone had been through the same thing and could give me there advice

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She started to have bleeding on her brain last night and that caused her to go into an unconscious state. Doctors said they could do surgery to fix the bleeding but there would only be a 40% Chance she would make it through and even if she did, they said she would likely have a poor quality of life afterwards meaning she wouldn't be able to talk or open her eyes and she would basically be on life support. As a family we decided to pull the plug and let her pass peacefully. Thanks for everyones support.


Rest In Peace Mom. 12/23/71 - 1/2/16

A Year Later
So here I am almost a year after she passed away. Its hard AF TBH still. No matter what people will tell you, They will not understand the pain and agony you go through until they experience the death of there mother as well. Yea, Some people can relate because they lost someone but not many can relate to losing their mother. The person who gave them life. Ill be honest, Losing her is the hardest thing ive ever had to experience in my 20 years of life. But I will tell you one thing, it made me grow up. And realise who my real friends are. I had people I haven't talked to in years message me on facebook telling me they were sorry for the loss of my mother yet I have people I called my best friends not even text me back or call me. I also learned to take nobody for granted. Anything can happen in an instant. Someone can say they are gonna call you back and 2 Min later, They are gone. Over the past 10 months, Ive had a Tattoo designed for my mother that I plan on getting. Gotta wear your heart on your sleeve right?! I recently was diagnosed with PTSD From finding my mother pretty much gone.
Now something I forgot to mention, I visited her on her birthday Dec 23rd and at the time, She was starting to alk again. Not totally making since at times but I kept asking her as she looked around laying in the hospital bed. "Mom, Please talk to me. Please, I just want to here your voice!" And for the first time in 3 Months, out of no where clear as day she told me she loved me 3 Times in a row with biggest smile on her face. Those were the last words I heard from her

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First of all, my condolences.

Now, if you're at school or anything try and get some appointments with a therapist and speak to them. They've helped me through some of my hardest times in life.

I hope everything gets better man, keeping my fingers crossed.
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Rwby wrote First of all, my condolences.

Now, if you're at school or anything try and get some appointments with a therapist and speak to them. They've helped me through some of my hardest times in life.

I hope everything gets better man, keeping my fingers crossed.


Finished high school last year. I could goto a therapist but I don't feel comfortable talking to someone I don't know
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Rwby wrote First of all, my condolences.

Now, if you're at school or anything try and get some appointments with a therapist and speak to them. They've helped me through some of my hardest times in life.

I hope everything gets better man, keeping my fingers crossed.


Finished high school last year. I could goto a therapist but I don't feel comfortable talking to someone I don't know
I had some problems in high school and my was told to see a therapist and at first i hated that because like you i hate telling people about my problems. But all i can say now is that im glad i went.

Go give it a shot man. It was the best decision i made even though i hated it at first.
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I go to a counselor for my anxiety and you grow a bond with the person so don't worry about that.
I hope she gets better soon.
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I might try it out. Ill keep you guys updated:)
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I personally have no advice but I hope all goes well and your Mum makes a good recovery and turns back to normal, I hope your okay bro.
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Is she on pain meds? What you described is 100% exactly what my aunt does. If she overdoses on her pain meds (which is sadly quite often) she will appear dead and when she does speak or act it's like she has Alzheimer. I've never taken her blood pressure or blood sugar though, but maybe if this happens to your mom again, try to get her to the hospital as soon as possible and get a blood tox done to see if she is on any drugs. You might not think she is, but she might be really good at hiding them.
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I'm so so so sorry about this dude, I nearly cried reading this. I've been bought up without my parents and been fostered most of my childhood until last year when I moved out. The only way to deal with stress and sadness was to talk to people and my closest friends and listen to music. I honestly can't give advice because it must be so hard for you. My thoughts are with your Mother and your family. I'm sorry about this, I hope everything is fine soon.
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Updates, She has started to talk again. Shes able to have a slow conversation but zones out frequently. But that's normal after being in a coma for nearly 3 months
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