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Okay so its now been 20 days since my friend hung himself. Sorry for the details but it is what it is. I've now lost 4 friends to suicide including my first girlfriend. First 3days i stayed away from alcohol, now ive not had much sleep nor not been smashed in 16 days straight. Im feeling myself going downhill, not just physically but mentally.
I've only got one friend left now.. my brother who lives 4 hours drive away & i am broke. I am ruined. His mum is begging us to stay strong for him but I honestly dont know what to hold on for anymore. Anyone who says "what you've been through is nothing" etc there's a lot more to the stories of my life. So dont be judging. Im in desperate need of motivation.. |
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Do you have a job, if so go to work all day you'll be occupied, then when you get home keep yourself occupied to take your mind off everything, Throw away all alcohol that is in your house, or anything you can get high from.
Maybe start some new hobbies, like fishing, sports, reading, find a different group of friends than you are used to, like that do the complete opposite than you do,or get find a girl and have her to focus on! Ive never had a friend commit suicide but it must be hard for you to go through what you have been through, People say its only a friend but a real friend is family so you've lost a family member not just a friend. I don't really know what advice to give other than start to do more things with your life as i say hobbies, even if it is something you'd never find yourself doing you may even like it and then adjust your life to them hobbies, Who knows you could feel like a new person, Maybe get some help off a support group. We have all been through terrible things in life and lost people but you just need to find your way again, and you will. You have to hit rock bottom to get to the top again. But really make sure you throw away anything that revolves around drugs, Alcohol and highs, that will make you 100x worse off, as you already know with alcohol. I hope this helps you in some way. If you ever need someone to speak to you know where i am shoot me a PM. |
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I've been there bro, I've lost too many friends to count due to OD's which is basically a suicide. Things that help me is just living for them and living the life that they couldn't.
Anyways if you ever need someone to talk to hmu, add me on discord and we can chat whenever. A lot of my friends come to me and talk to me in their depressed times, I can usually keep their mind off of it. |
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I'm sorry for your loss, I've never had to go through this experience and I hope I never do.
I can understand your not wanting to do anything but you must find a way to cope with this situation. Are your coping mechanisms simply "drown in alcohol/drugs"? These are so, SO harmful to you and your mental state and I really hope you stay strong and stay off of any substances that could cloud your judgement and make you take a rash decision. Do you have any hobbies? If so, focus your mind on any of your hobbies and keep yourself active. Do not sink in to your bed or couch, this is the WORST thing you could do. A stationary lifestyle only gives your mind time to wallow in the sadness and creates more problems. I didn't know I was incredibly depressed until I realized one day that I had missed half a semester of class because I preferred to lay down on my bed and sleep until 2-3 in the afternoon. An active mind is a busy mind, it'll help relieve some of the sadness and pain you're going through because your mind will be focused on other things. Also, there is nothing wrong with expressing yourself. If your brother is 4 hours away, there's always phone calls and Facetime (if you've got an iPhone) and don't be afraid to express yourself with him through this tough time. Communication is key for this because you don't want all of the anger and sadness to get pent up to the point of no return. If you need someone to talk to, my PMs are open (even though I'm not as active anymore) or my Discord is Bosque#6503 (anybody can add me). Remember: there are people who care, no matter if they don't know you on a personal and deep level. When your world feels like it's crashing down on you, there's always a way to conquer the crash and revive your world. There are also professionals who studied to help people who go through situations like yours. Don't be scared to go to a psychologist, there is nothing wrong with acquiring help for your mental health. Even just ONE session with a psychologist could help you, you could express yourself freely with the doctor and he (or she) will be hearing you all the time and analyzing what activities could help you overcome this saddening situation. Stay strong. You are loved and cared for by the ones close to you. |
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