TastyCereal wrote

Mikey wrote Shes an awesome girl man, like the last to girlfriends ive had did drugs and shit like that, because i meet them at raves, and i would only go raving with them, but this is a decent girl dont drink ovs when we go out fine, but dont touch drugs, shes nice most of the time, and we have so much in common. I do truly love her and i would happily marry her and adopted the little one. I just think working nights and the hours i do is making it all shit, because she is right i hardly see her, but i feel when i get round to buy a house and she move in it would be alot better. But yeah i think she is the one for sure.

Do you think i should go see her in the morning ?

I think you know your answer then. She sounds amazing, and if that's what you know you want, then fight for you guys to work. I did long distance with a girl for like a year, so I know how the not seeing thing goes. It's complicated because it sucks, but simple in the idea that you should do everything you can to see the other person. Calvary is right that you have to listen to her, and especially if you are the reason for most of these fights or disagreements. This is what I mean for one person backing down, at times, to listen to the other person and do what makes them happy, if you truly love them and want to be with them. At the same time set a tone so you both know what's expected of the relationship, i.e. No cheating. Complicated, I know.

I personally would go see her in the morning. At the same time, read the situation. Like if she obviously wants space, give her some, if not, go see her man.

The problem is just that i find it hard to listen to her, because of my ADHD and shit, i get distracted very easily and i find it hard to hold a conversation but yeah i love her so much im gonna go round there in a few hours after work, i might stay up the whole day with her even knowing ive got work again at 7pm tomz

Mikey wrote

TastyCereal wrote

Mikey wrote Shes an awesome girl man, like the last to girlfriends ive had did drugs and shit like that, because i meet them at raves, and i would only go raving with them, but this is a decent girl dont drink ovs when we go out fine, but dont touch drugs, shes nice most of the time, and we have so much in common. I do truly love her and i would happily marry her and adopted the little one. I just think working nights and the hours i do is making it all shit, because she is right i hardly see her, but i feel when i get round to buy a house and she move in it would be alot better. But yeah i think she is the one for sure.

Do you think i should go see her in the morning ?

I think you know your answer then. She sounds amazing, and if that's what you know you want, then fight for you guys to work. I did long distance with a girl for like a year, so I know how the not seeing thing goes. It's complicated because it sucks, but simple in the idea that you should do everything you can to see the other person. Calvary is right that you have to listen to her, and especially if you are the reason for most of these fights or disagreements. This is what I mean for one person backing down, at times, to listen to the other person and do what makes them happy, if you truly love them and want to be with them. At the same time set a tone so you both know what's expected of the relationship, i.e. No cheating. Complicated, I know.

I personally would go see her in the morning. At the same time, read the situation. Like if she obviously wants space, give her some, if not, go see her man.

The problem is just that i find it hard to listen to her, because of my ADHD and shit, i get distracted very easily and i find it hard to hold a conversation but yeah i love her so much im gonna go round there in a few hours after work, i might stay up the whole day with her even knowing ive got work again at 7pm tomz

That sucks. So your ADHD is not helping anything. I guess all I can say is manage it as best as you can and talk to her about how your ADHD doesn't help. I hope everything goes well if you choose to see her.

At the same time I want to bring attention to what some others are saying on here; I hope you're not just in it because you love the idea of love, and idea of loving a girl like her, someone who doesn't do drugs and is "good." Do what makes you happy, and if this shit isn't making you happy, have what it takes to change it so you can be happy. I can't not mention this.

Again, from what you told me it sounds like she's what you want, so I encourage you to give it your all for her. I truly wish you the best of luck Mikey.

Personally Mikey I tried working it out you guys have been together for 2 years it sounds like you love her so I think you should try to work it out cuz it really does sound like you love her and you like being around her I would just sit down and talk to her about things that you guys need to fix.

I'd say if you're genuinely wanting to spend your life with this girl then you guys need to grow up and talk about it like adults. Talk about what each of you two want. Don't dictate her life and certainly don't let her dictate yours.

None of this pussyfooting around and finding temporary solutions. If there are more cons then pros then you need to get out man before you end up mentally destroying yourself. Put yourself and YOUR feelings first mate.

Honestly hope you make the right decision for YOU. I've been through shit like this and I know exactly how you'll be feeling. Ever need to talk, I'm there for you man.

Have you tried to sit down and talk to her about it over a nice meal or something?
I'm saying that's going to be the best for you, have some quality time with her, just you two, ask for a baby sitter or something.

Then talk about all the problems you both have and try and over come them, if not then talk about alternatives. Explain to her that you want to make it work but it's hard.

That's what my relationship was like in my freshman year of college, if you guys keep breaking up and getting back together it probably won't last. If you're with someone it shouldn't be hard. Sometimes you want to stay with someone because of the drama. I'd suggest no contact for a bit and see what happens. If you love each other you guyes will end up with each other. But I later realized I kept going back with her sometimes just for the drama. You also have think about your self sometimes to make sure you're really happy.

Okay, so if you didn't already know ALL women are crazy at times. I understand you trying to keep a long term relationship that you truly love and not trying to lose something like that.
Best idea is to set up surprises or something for every morning to lighten her mood. Like Flowers, Chocolate, stuffed animals. Maybe that'll help with some moodiness. If you want to get this to work then put some different tactics and effort into it. Unless you just want to find something that might be less dramatic (which is highly unlikely) then by all means go for it. But if this is someond you trly love put some flossy moves to make her smile at random points.

you seem really immature for your age you need to get your priorities straight you are both fully grown adults and acting like a high school couple. Seems its best to let it go

Hey Mikey. I fell sorry for you being in this situation! I Broke up with my ex 6 month ago now and was in kind of same situation. i meet her while she was half way true her pregnency i we found together and i took her little girl to me like she was my own! my ex got pregnant with me. even when my kid got to the world i spent more time with my step daugther because loved her so much. anyway. stuff got out of hand with me and my ex after she was 6 month in her pregnency! everything i did was wrong and as i adjusted my self to make her happy something new was just not right 2 month after my daughters birth we started breaking, blocking eachother and finding back together like small kids it made my mind freak out litreally i got depressed and stress so i started to a psycoligistist to talk about my problems and life and to get help to find the best reselution for me. after 7 session over a period of 3 month where i got suggested to make a desistion if wanted to fight for this releationship or give it up i keept finding because i felt inside i loved her to much to give it up.! Things just got even worse and it ended up with her standing and turning of the tv while watched Football we got in a fight i packed my stuff and left her. the 1 month after i left her i was so opsed i was crying and missing my stepdaughter like crazy! (i still saw my real daughter) overtime when 2 month passed by and the emotions went away i really knew that, that decision i mad was the right desicion because a releationship like isent worth it! Today im happy as F***. i see my old stepdaughter once in awhile when im picking up my own daughter. she still calls me PAPA even tough my ex got a new boyfriend but the emostions for my stepdaughter isent hard any she will still always have a place in my heart!! Hope this can help in anyway i normaly dont post and never such a long as i write on the xbox but hoped that i could give you a good advice and make you remember that emotions is only temporary and will go away! Peace out!

Awe I'm always here for you Mikey