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Okay so i'm not here for me its for my girlfriend. Anyway my girlfriend and her old friend use to be "besties" but her friend has really gone down the wrong path and my girlfriend doesn't want anything to do with her and really wants to cut the friendship due to the fact her friend has made a lot of bad choices, has tried to make her cheat, and is very controlling. The problem with doing this though is that her "friend" knows a lot of her personal stuff and will use her dead family member against her. How can she end the friendship and make sure nothing happens? Please I really just want to help her. I don't know what to do. Thank you all in advance.
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The best solution is to talk man.
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You can't.
Cut ties with her and if she does say anything then whoever is left standing by your side when it's over will be your true friends and close family members.
It'll be a good thing for your lives. It'll purge any of the 'fake' people around you.
Unless you're willing to blackmail her into not saying anything. But Humans are stupid so she probably will anyway.
Cut ties with her and if she does say anything then whoever is left standing by your side when it's over will be your true friends and close family members.
It'll be a good thing for your lives. It'll purge any of the 'fake' people around you.
Unless you're willing to blackmail her into not saying anything. But Humans are stupid so she probably will anyway.
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Obscurum wrote You can't.
Cut ties with her and if she does say anything then whoever is left standing by your side when it's over will be your true friends and close family members.
It'll be a good thing for your lives. It'll purge any of the 'fake' people around you.
Unless you're willing to blackmail her into not saying anything. But Humans are stupid so she probably will anyway.
Yeah man thats probably the best option :/
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XeGlitch wrote The best solution is to talk man.
Talking and just letting it happen is probably the best solution
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Well you realize that any and every fight you have with this girl she will always have leverage on you guys with the information she knows. She's always gonna be able to use it against you and your girlfriend. I just went through a similar situation.. Feel free to pm me if you wanna talk about the entire situation and I can give you my take on it
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Wrong path as in what? If it's drugs, alcohol, or something like that, the answer is simple. Respect is mutual, right? The answer isn't "stop doing drugs". The answer is "I don't do drugs and I don't hold it against you, but I'd prefer you don't do drugs around me". That's not saying they can't do drugs, it's just saying you respect the fact they want to do drugs, so they need to respect the fact that you don't want people doing drugs around you. If this girl turns around and says "well your X deserved to die" or "you killed your X", just walk away. Clearly they are beyond help.
It's the same thing with the cheating, it's just hard to get it not to sound like your starting a fight. For example "I don't judge you for cheating, but I'm secure in my relationship and I don't have a need to cheat". That can sound like the other person doesn't have a secure relationship and may start a fight or something. If it's cheating on homework, the simple answer is "I don't care if you cheat but I just don't have a need to".
It's the same thing with the cheating, it's just hard to get it not to sound like your starting a fight. For example "I don't judge you for cheating, but I'm secure in my relationship and I don't have a need to cheat". That can sound like the other person doesn't have a secure relationship and may start a fight or something. If it's cheating on homework, the simple answer is "I don't care if you cheat but I just don't have a need to".
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