So, I've been talking to this guy online for almost a year now. We were good friends, up until the point where he was continuously feeling sorry for himself. He would say things like "Nobody loves me. Nobody cares about me. I'm a piece of sh*t that no one cares about". He would say those things a lot, especially when we would get in an argument. I tried being his friend, and I tried being nice to him. I would tell him things like "I'm really sorry that you feel that way. You deserve to live. You're a human being too, and you deserve to live on this earth too". I would say things like that.... But, it just seemed like it would all go to waste.
I really do care about him as a friend, and it upsets me when he says things like that all the time. I always try to help him, and tell him positive things. When I tell him positive things, it's like they just fly over his head. Five hours ago he sent me a message saying "natalie i dont want to be here anymore i just woke up went upstairs to use the bathroom and the second i opened the door my brother tells me he wishes i would kill myself". I then responded saying "I'm sorry that your brother said an awful thing like that. He obviously has some mental issues, and that's what makes him act like that. I know it's hard, but try your best to ignore him. Do not get in a fight with him, that will just get you in trouble". Because he told me (in the past) that when he stands up for himself, he gets in trouble. I don't want him to get in trouble, so, I tell him to not say anything back and do not get in a fight.
He also told me that his mother does nothing when his brother is mean to him. He told me that his mother does not care about, and that none of his family cares about him... So when he comes to me and tells me that his family is treating him like garbage, I tell him to ignore them. To just walk away. That's what I told him five hours ago, and he got mad at me for telling him that. He said "and you didnt give any advice if you really think telling me to ignore him is advice then idk what else to say to you obviously it doesnt work this wouldve never happened". What else should I have said? Should I have said to tell his mom? No, because apparently she doesn't care. Should I have told him to say something back to his brother? No, because he would've gotten in a lot of trouble. Should I have told him to beat up his brother? No, because he would've been in a huge amount of trouble. My full response was "You should just ignore him. Just walk away, and go about your business. I know that it hurts when your brother says rude things to you, but there's really nothing else that you can do".

It is really annoying when you try to make someone feel better, and then they say that your advice didn't help... I always give him advice. I always try to help him.


Do you guys think he wants people to feel sorry for him?