Is it suppose to be in the menu and when you message me can you message me Saying its you or invite me to a party cause im not sure if it might be you messaging me ?

Alright ill invite you to party.

this is my way if the only way.
Tell every one to have the same preferences preferably
Auto aim (disallow)
Police (no)
Friendly fire(on)

Then you because you have to be host search for a rank death Mach game until you get host then when you got it get people to search for a rank death match and they should be in your game. Its my way of doing it and it works every time for me.

Then go to online player in your menu then click on there name and keep giving that player that money. Wait for the game to end and he or she will be tenth with a wonderful new achievement. Sorry if there any miss spelling or grammar I type this pretty fast to get it out of the way