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Greetings,
I need some advice on quite a touchy subject, being:
How would I break it to my mother/grandma/sisters (more than anybody) that I am joining the British Army's Infantry? I need to go and do my BARB tests, and I just can't keep it quiet. I live in the country, and for one, I'd need my mom to take me there because it is simply so far away, and I just can not afford my own car insurance at this moment in time.
I have a young sister (4) and an older sister (22) alongside two younger brothers (3 and 9) - I never see my brothers or my older sister as they don't live with me and my younger sister. It sounds weird, but I'm not going to get sidetracked here.
I'm really close with my grandma and mother. I've been a quiet guy all of my life. I've lacked confidence, had very low self esteem, but I've been in the gym, got my fitness levels up, and I feel I'm ready to begin my journey. I've wanted to join for around 2 years now, without a doubt in my mind. It just really clicked with me ever since I first looked into it, but again, that is besides the point.
I think it'd come as such a hit for my family. That's why I'm asking you guys for some sort of advice; how could I... Just break it to them? They wouldn't expect it from me AT ALL. I can absolutely guarantee you that. I've always been (like many of us all right now, lets keep it real) very into my computers, literally all of my life, ever since I was a kid. I've always kept out of trouble, kept myself to myself, and I don't speak to them about anything at all really, except for casual day to day conversation.
Any advice would be highly appreciated, I thank you all very much.
I am 17 years of age.
Take care, guys.
I need some advice on quite a touchy subject, being:
How would I break it to my mother/grandma/sisters (more than anybody) that I am joining the British Army's Infantry? I need to go and do my BARB tests, and I just can't keep it quiet. I live in the country, and for one, I'd need my mom to take me there because it is simply so far away, and I just can not afford my own car insurance at this moment in time.
I have a young sister (4) and an older sister (22) alongside two younger brothers (3 and 9) - I never see my brothers or my older sister as they don't live with me and my younger sister. It sounds weird, but I'm not going to get sidetracked here.
I'm really close with my grandma and mother. I've been a quiet guy all of my life. I've lacked confidence, had very low self esteem, but I've been in the gym, got my fitness levels up, and I feel I'm ready to begin my journey. I've wanted to join for around 2 years now, without a doubt in my mind. It just really clicked with me ever since I first looked into it, but again, that is besides the point.
I think it'd come as such a hit for my family. That's why I'm asking you guys for some sort of advice; how could I... Just break it to them? They wouldn't expect it from me AT ALL. I can absolutely guarantee you that. I've always been (like many of us all right now, lets keep it real) very into my computers, literally all of my life, ever since I was a kid. I've always kept out of trouble, kept myself to myself, and I don't speak to them about anything at all really, except for casual day to day conversation.
Any advice would be highly appreciated, I thank you all very much.
I am 17 years of age.
Take care, guys.
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I'm not or never have been a part of the British Army. But I can give you some advice on how to break it to your family. I know it's a very tough thing to announce considering how high risk the occupation is.
Maybe at a dinner table (with the family members you live with) just say it calmly to everyone. Explain how serious you are about it, and that you really want to follow the career path.
BTW, respect for doing something I wouldn't have the balls to do.
Maybe at a dinner table (with the family members you live with) just say it calmly to everyone. Explain how serious you are about it, and that you really want to follow the career path.
BTW, respect for doing something I wouldn't have the balls to do.
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@Tyrion
No need to show me respect, it's just my job choice. Although, I appreciate it.
I'll take your suggestion on bored and compile as many suggestions as I possibly can before this thread dies, and then I'll try to come to the most sensible way as to how I can break the news.
Thanks, Tyrion.
No need to show me respect, it's just my job choice. Although, I appreciate it.
I'll take your suggestion on bored and compile as many suggestions as I possibly can before this thread dies, and then I'll try to come to the most sensible way as to how I can break the news.
Thanks, Tyrion.
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Im no expert with this but im sure they would understand that it's what you want to do? I know its not the easiest job but im sure they would understand.
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Here's my advice as I am the same age as you and I am currently in the process of joining the British Infantry also, I have completed my BARB and have done a few Icebreakers. The simple fact is that you need to tell your parents you are going, not only for the reasons you stated, but because they have a legal obligation to sign a form saying that they allow you to sign up because you're under 18. Myself, I told my family from the start that I wanted to join, and they have been 100% supportive of me, at the start it was a little dodgy for them facing the fact I'll be away in danger most of the time, but you just need to convince them that this IS the job you want to do, this is the career that you have chosen. I'm not saying force them to let you go, it's going to be hard for them just as much as you, if not more.
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XKSR95 wrote Here's my advice as I am the same age as you and I am currently in the process of joining the British Infantry also, I have completed my BARB and have done a few Icebreakers. The simple fact is that you need to tell your parents you are going, not only for the reasons you stated, but because they have a legal obligation to sign a form saying that they allow you to sign up because you're under 18. Myself, I told my family from the start that I wanted to join, and they have been 100% supportive of me, at the start it was a little dodgy for them facing the fact I'll be away in danger most of the time, but you just need to convince them that this IS the job you want to do, this is the career that you have chosen. I'm not saying force them to let you go, it's going to be hard for them just as much as you, if not more.
I understand, thank you for the advice. How exactly did you break it to your family? It's just... I have no idea how to approach them, how to word it, etc.
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To start off, I have not been in the military (is an option, my fallback plan) but I am quite knowledgeable about breaking things to people. At a dinner table, calmly speak your heart, but before you do so you might want to say, "I don't want you to say no straight away so please hear me out." then go on to say I know (insert danger here) can happen, but think about (insert good reason here). I would hope you would feel on board with me and take me out to take my BARB.
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take this from experience,
your mum will hate you, she will scream and shout and pretend shes not going to let you do it.
fist of you dont need her to get there, get the train.....
if your married your wife wont want you to l eave your child behind
theyll all hate you/worry sick
but fact is bro, its your life, not theirs
your mum will hate you, she will scream and shout and pretend shes not going to let you do it.
fist of you dont need her to get there, get the train.....
if your married your wife wont want you to l eave your child behind
theyll all hate you/worry sick
but fact is bro, its your life, not theirs
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-Semtex wrote take this from experience,
your mum will hate you, she will scream and shout and pretend shes not going to let you do it.
fist of you dont need her to get there, get the train.....
if your married your wife wont want you to l eave your child behind
theyll all hate you/worry sick
but fact is bro, its your life, not theirs
You obviously don't understand what family is, they're not going to hate him for doing one of the most bravest and honorable jobs you are able to do in the world. Stop trying to put him off.
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I had the same problem many, many years ago when i went to join up what i did was sit my mum and sisters down and told them, my mum said she would not sign my papers but i kept tell her that it was what i wanted to do.She signed my papers and when i wanted to come out she told me to stay in which is what i did my family never hated me only encouraged me. So good luck and be safe keep your head down and work hard, training is not easy.
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