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I don't really post much on here anymore, especially not personal, real-life issues, but I really have no one to talk to about this because I feel like I bore my friends with my personal stories.
Anywho, you ever have the feeling that you annoy the shit out of someone? I've been texting with this person daily for the past month, I'm interested in this person (not really at the point where I like the person, I think it's too soon to call it that) and during the first three weeks, we were texting normally and we were having great conversations, the responses were quick and the person tried to maintain a conversation. But, all of a sudden, it feels as if the person doesn't want to talk to me anymore; it might just be me but it feels as if the interest to maintain the conversation going just died out. I know I shouldn't get hung up on things like that but you can tell a lot from how a person talks to you, you can notice if they're interested or not. And I just can't feel any interest coming from this person when they text me. To be honest, I have this constant fear of becoming boring to a person and maybe I try too hard; my best friend told me to take things easily and just stop texting back so quickly, respond kinda with no interest in the conversation and so on. Any other advice you guys could give me?
I might just be overthinking it, I don't know. I just needed somewhere to vent about it, makes me feel like shit most of the time.
Anywho, you ever have the feeling that you annoy the shit out of someone? I've been texting with this person daily for the past month, I'm interested in this person (not really at the point where I like the person, I think it's too soon to call it that) and during the first three weeks, we were texting normally and we were having great conversations, the responses were quick and the person tried to maintain a conversation. But, all of a sudden, it feels as if the person doesn't want to talk to me anymore; it might just be me but it feels as if the interest to maintain the conversation going just died out. I know I shouldn't get hung up on things like that but you can tell a lot from how a person talks to you, you can notice if they're interested or not. And I just can't feel any interest coming from this person when they text me. To be honest, I have this constant fear of becoming boring to a person and maybe I try too hard; my best friend told me to take things easily and just stop texting back so quickly, respond kinda with no interest in the conversation and so on. Any other advice you guys could give me?
I might just be overthinking it, I don't know. I just needed somewhere to vent about it, makes me feel like shit most of the time.
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Very relatable for me, it seems like it's this way for almost anyone I talk to besides super close friends ive known for awhile.
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It happens to a lot more people than you think it happens to me personally but I've learned to not care and let them give effort because I have put my dues in by putting in effort and it goes no where
Just move on and if they wanna talk to you just be semi short but also depends on the convo
Just be your self and find your self to a point where you really don't need anyone other than your self
And if someone wants to come in your life like sincerely it's just a plus
Just move on and if they wanna talk to you just be semi short but also depends on the convo
Just be your self and find your self to a point where you really don't need anyone other than your self
And if someone wants to come in your life like sincerely it's just a plus
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Shit just stops bein as fun as it used to I guess. Sometimes I just dont feel like talking to someone as much as I used to. I wouldn't worry about it too much unless you're doing really annoying stuff.
Usually annoying people don't bother to think about how they come across to others (hence them being annoying) so I think you're okay Lily
Usually annoying people don't bother to think about how they come across to others (hence them being annoying) so I think you're okay Lily
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Have you been meeting, maybe if you haven't been meeting then maybe after 4 weeks of conversation maybe it feels to the other person that conversation is all its gonna be. Go on a date, meet for a drink, this would defiantly put interest back in the other person.
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Hey, Lily! I have the same problem a lot of times. I have anxiety and overthink things way too much, and I'm aware of it. That being said, I can kind of relate.
Things may not be as excited as they were when you first started talking, but I don't think that's a big deal. I feel like you're fine. I would just keep talking to him, especially if you are really interested, and he's a good dude.
At the same time, in this day and age, how you come off across over messaging does mean a lot (sadly). So if this keeps up, it might mean something. I would listen to your friend, and take things easy, and just be casual about it, and see where things go.
Just calm yourself in knowing that there's only so much you can do.
I've had problems with my ex, similar to this.
Sorry if this was too long lmao. Good luck :3
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Things may not be as excited as they were when you first started talking, but I don't think that's a big deal. I feel like you're fine. I would just keep talking to him, especially if you are really interested, and he's a good dude.
At the same time, in this day and age, how you come off across over messaging does mean a lot (sadly). So if this keeps up, it might mean something. I would listen to your friend, and take things easy, and just be casual about it, and see where things go.
Just calm yourself in knowing that there's only so much you can do.
I've had problems with my ex, similar to this.
Sorry if this was too long lmao. Good luck :3
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To be honest what's happened here is that the conversations can only go so far, the fact you haven't directly made a move such as meeting up, going to the movies etc makes the person think you just wanna chat. They don't want to have the same conversations slightly tweaked each week.
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FYI: I forgot to mention that I have met up with the person and we had a pretty great time, it was basically all laughs and talking; nothing further than that.
Maybe I should stop texting the person for a day? I don't know. It's just confusing to me, haven't had this type of relation with a person in a while and it's sort of new to me.
Maybe I should stop texting the person for a day? I don't know. It's just confusing to me, haven't had this type of relation with a person in a while and it's sort of new to me.
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Lily wrote FYI: I forgot to mention that I have met up with the person and we had a pretty great time, it was basically all laughs and talking; nothing further than that.
Maybe I should stop texting the person for a day? I don't know. It's just confusing to me, haven't had this type of relation with a person in a while and it's sort of new to me.
That's kind of what I was assuming. So it sounds like you get along really good.
I think that's a good idea. You could stop texting for a day and see what happens. It's hard not to overthink it.
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Stop showing interest and see how they react; if they don't then they lost interest and if they react, then you'll know they didn't lose interest.
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