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My mom yelled at me. Yesterday at church my sister was texting the WHOLE TIME. I took my phone out to look at time my mom whispered on a rude way "stop texting" . I then said look at her shes texting my mom looked at her and said "what do you mean she texted me" (like wtf) . today my mom told me my sister said her spring schedules out i said i checked and mines not out yet. She instantly assumed i was lying and i said stop blaming me for shit when my sister does the same thing and gets away with it. My mom laughed and dared me to list examples. I said the texting in church thing, i said how if i got under a B on an exam the past two years at mcp she would be pissed off but my sister failed like two exams in a row and my mom said "thats ok college is hard", my sister constantly swears at and tells my parents their stupid (not literally say stupid but say "youre slow" "how do you not understand this" "oh my god i cant believe you dont understand" , etc. and when i say something like "i told you this last week" they get mad and tell me to leave, ALSO i help at my moms store almost all day everyday, when im working (even when theres lines of customers) my mom pr dad (usually both) would be on the computer watching youtube while i work and ppl yelling at me to work faster, at the same time whenever my sister comes to the store everytime after classes she sits there and texts nonstop and sit there while I STILL work my ass off, when i complain they yell at me because im "suppose to help my family with the business" but my sister cam get away with it even though we are a year apart. Tell me am i treated unfairly? Oh and I work for free unless you count getting paid $20 A WEEK as getting paid when i work from 3pm-8pm a night with them.
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I think you are being a bit of soft arse.
Just get on with your own shit
Just get on with your own shit
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From what you said, it seems like the sister is the favorite. Not to be rude or anything.
Growing up, my brother was the favorite. He is 4 years older then me and i always got yelled at while he was praised for everything so i understand where you are coming from. The best you can do is just avoid things that set your parents off. It will help avoid confrontation
Growing up, my brother was the favorite. He is 4 years older then me and i always got yelled at while he was praised for everything so i understand where you are coming from. The best you can do is just avoid things that set your parents off. It will help avoid confrontation
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Just gotta deal with it, I was treated like that my whole life, my older sister being the favorite. Just gotta learn to deal with it.
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id say just learn to deal with it or move out lol
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My parents are lighter on my sister, that's how it's always been.
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It's hard to tell without knowing the whole story.
For example, your sister could be an atheist, in which case she doesn't care about church and your mum knows this, where as she thinks that you believe in God so she expects more from you.
Or you could be smarter than your sister, so it's okay for her to fail a test or two and your parents expect better from you.
Most important of all, your sister is older than you, so of course she can get away with things you can't like swearing and having more responsibilities.
Honestly, it's literally impossible for us to tell. I wouldn't say that your parents are treating you unfairly in anyway though, I mean they give you a home and food/water. That's more than most people get.
For example, your sister could be an atheist, in which case she doesn't care about church and your mum knows this, where as she thinks that you believe in God so she expects more from you.
Or you could be smarter than your sister, so it's okay for her to fail a test or two and your parents expect better from you.
Most important of all, your sister is older than you, so of course she can get away with things you can't like swearing and having more responsibilities.
Honestly, it's literally impossible for us to tell. I wouldn't say that your parents are treating you unfairly in anyway though, I mean they give you a home and food/water. That's more than most people get.
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You gotta deal with it.
I had the belt on a daily basis.
I had the belt on a daily basis.
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First off, how old are you?
Some parents are strict like yours because believe it or not, they want you to do well in life.
Me as a 17 year old teen living in the UK too have a strict mother in some ways. I know how annoying can parents get.
Until I was 16, my mum was very strict on me and I honestly felt like I was not wanted. She would always favour my sister (who is now 19) over me. For example make me wash dishes, hoover the house, etc. and she would never tell my sister to do it.
In secondary school I was doing really bad, was getting bullied so I really didn't want to go in. I started smoking and getting into fights. Got excluded couple of times, and whenever my mum would get called into school she would say she's embarrassed that I'm her son, that why can't I be like my sister etc.
When the exams came, my real dad committed suicide. It fu*ked me up emotionally. I was lashing out at everyone. Didn't want to talk to people, and stopped coming school. I missed all lessons and only came for the exams and failed most of them including math and English.
I didn't talk to my mum for good 6 months, I realised how wonderful she is. I didnt want to lose her too. Parents work so hard just to provide for you. They grow you up so you can do things for them.
Your mum does not hate you, she works hard to provide food in your belly, shelter over your head and clothes on your body. She is only human. Sometimes she is in a good mood, sometimes she is not. You have had really good moments with her. You know you have.
Your mum asks you to do things for a reason and as a son, you should do what your mum asks without a answer back.
Some parents are strict like yours because believe it or not, they want you to do well in life.
Me as a 17 year old teen living in the UK too have a strict mother in some ways. I know how annoying can parents get.
Until I was 16, my mum was very strict on me and I honestly felt like I was not wanted. She would always favour my sister (who is now 19) over me. For example make me wash dishes, hoover the house, etc. and she would never tell my sister to do it.
In secondary school I was doing really bad, was getting bullied so I really didn't want to go in. I started smoking and getting into fights. Got excluded couple of times, and whenever my mum would get called into school she would say she's embarrassed that I'm her son, that why can't I be like my sister etc.
When the exams came, my real dad committed suicide. It fu*ked me up emotionally. I was lashing out at everyone. Didn't want to talk to people, and stopped coming school. I missed all lessons and only came for the exams and failed most of them including math and English.
I didn't talk to my mum for good 6 months, I realised how wonderful she is. I didnt want to lose her too. Parents work so hard just to provide for you. They grow you up so you can do things for them.
Your mum does not hate you, she works hard to provide food in your belly, shelter over your head and clothes on your body. She is only human. Sometimes she is in a good mood, sometimes she is not. You have had really good moments with her. You know you have.
Your mum asks you to do things for a reason and as a son, you should do what your mum asks without a answer back.
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Sounds pretty simple to me, there's a lack of communication and a lack of understanding. I'll give you an example of my brother and I as children where I would be your sister and my brother would be you. Our parents would give us simple tasks such as clean the dishes, feed the dog, mow the lawn, etc. I would get up and do it. My brother would say "after this level" or "after this show". By then, either I've already done it or it's too dark to mow the lawn. After that there would be an argument in the morning as to why the lawn wasn't mowed and so on and so forth.
This led to me "getting away with stuff" as you would put it, when it's just as simple as when you show responsibility, they give you more freedom. You might work 100x harder than her at this store, but your parents aren't watching you guys all the time. It sounds like your sister does what my brother does. Puts in minimal effort until someone is watching then bang it out like no ones business until they stop looking.
This led to me "getting away with stuff" as you would put it, when it's just as simple as when you show responsibility, they give you more freedom. You might work 100x harder than her at this store, but your parents aren't watching you guys all the time. It sounds like your sister does what my brother does. Puts in minimal effort until someone is watching then bang it out like no ones business until they stop looking.
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