HxH wrote what do you mean by "at least I don't get physical"

Personal question, don't you think? I'm assuming he means that his girlfriend gets physical and he doesn't react to it. But let us just leave it at that.

Topiary wrote

HxH wrote what do you mean by "at least I don't get physical"

Personal question, don't you think? I'm assuming he means that his girlfriend gets physical and he doesn't react to it. But let us just leave it at that.

No i want to know, because if so that's disgusting and he shouldn't be with her

This is a hard situation because you have to get rid of your feelings and think about your child. While it is harder for kids with split parents in general, but on the other hand if they grow up seeing mommy and daddy fight, what is that teaching them about relationships? Will they think that's how it's supposed to be?

KyloCrux wrote Alright. So I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for two years now, we had a baby back in November and it wasn't planned. We got along great but in the past 9 months we do nothing but fight. Mainly about our families. She has no problem letting our daughter go see her family but when it comes to letting her see my family she isn't allowed. I know by law I'm allowed to just take her and see my family but we always end up in fights. I mean massive fight. Nothing physical though. At least I don't get physical. I don't know what I should do, whether i should just end the relationship or what.

I know this isn't a counseling site but there are a lot of awesome people with great advice and that is all I am seeking is your thoughts and advice.

I would try to make the relationship work for the sake of your kid

Thank you guys. I really appreciate all your advice.

I'd honestly just end it bro. It's not worth sticking around in an abusive relationship just for a child it isn't healthy for a child to grow up with fighting parents I've learned from experience. However i would definitely aim for 50/50 custody if you cant take the child with you. whether it be a simple agreement between the both of you or Legally. Teaching your children to stay with an abuser is just wrong and the unfortunate repercussions of growing up watching mommy and daddy fight could be destructive for the child later in its life. I promise you the journey won't be easy, but the light at the end of the tunnel is well worth it.

Tread lightly my friend
Also feel free to PM me about anything

-Skitty

Miss wrote You guys should settle your difference before something happens or you split, think about your child first and foremost.

This is random, but my brother-in-law was killed this weekend by a hit and run (R.I.P.) and now my niece is fatherless. I only bring it up because my sister and him we're basically in the exact same situation you are talking about. Anything can happen at any moment and you should think about your child first is basically what I'm getting to. You don't want him/her to grow up without one of you in their life.

Wow I am so sorry for your loss man

If you live in UK then i suggest Mediation

Google "child maintenance calculator" and fill in the questionaire and send her bank transfers of what you should be giving her, Keep all statements as proof.

Being in the same situation there will become a point where she will stop child access, Therefore if you go mediation you can write up a plan and its in writing, Failing that apply for a court order and get a legal document.

Good luck

If you would like to know anything else feel free to PM me and i can pass on my advice or possibly give and answers to the questions you might like to ask.

That's always a bad situation when couples fight, sometimes you gotta be understanding and talk it out. But if that doesn't work then you guys need a game plan.