GeneralHave you ever lost your laugh?
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I goto an activity group to do fun things like axe throwing, clay pigieon shooting, residentials/day activities and stuff,
while at it someone said something funny and everyone was laughing out loud i just smiled, i did think it was funny but one of the people running the group said (its okay to laugh) and then i thought about it i can't unless i fake it, the last time i remember laughing out loud properly was around 10 years ago when i was 13 i haven't lost my sense of humour just my laugh if i find something really funny i might exhale abit of air from my nose and smile XD, And now im just wondering why its gone or if i can get it back when i think how i lost it theres 2 possible reasons in my mind. 1. As a kid my parents said i would wake them up at night while gaming so mabey i got so use to holding in my laugh for so long that i unconsiously hold it in with ease now and find it difficult to laugh. Or 2. for about a year when i was 15 or 16 i was pretty depressed felt useless got sick of doing the same shit and barley even smiled think then i didn't have much sense of humour, feel alot better since then mental health is good met a girl who accepts that as my "laugh" says i find stuff funny like her told me my shoulders bounce up and down when i find something halrious but i just can't let it out, sense of humor has sky rocketed i find silly and dumb stuff funny. Just sharing this as i found it intresting and if you have any tips on how to start laughing again let me know or if i should just fake it until it becomes a real laugh lol, and if its all in the mind behind a barrier i know a hypnotherapist who is like a mentalist i could possibly speak to but i don't know if that would be a waste of time im not worrying about it just thought id tell you guys/grills incase yous have ever had this happen in the past and how you overcame it. Also if if anyone says you have a weird or annoying laugh screw them don't hold it in don't quieten it for thier liking unless you're a kid living with your parents gaming at 4am mabey don't stay up that long or if its a place you shouldn't really laugh, i personally find the loudest weirdest laughs the best laughs they can make things funny that are not or exaguratee the funnyness of a scenario or joke. TLDR: i find stuff funny but i don't laugh. |
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I think when people age they tend to mature, those who mature quicker possibly sub-consciously choose to hide or lower the outcome of a laugh/smile. I personally only properly laugh when I'm around people who won't judge me for my laugh. Although I don't really talk to them anymore I haven't had a proper "belly laugh" for a good few years. I know it's sad to here that people find it hard to find that laugh again but trust me man, it's still there waiting.
My advice: GTA is currently on games pass, hop on with some old pals, do some random shit and I bet you'll have one of those laughs. Just don't play it seriously, have fun, play some funny modes. Also, if you're feeling low I know I'm just a random bloke, chat to me. Send me a PM or chuck me an invite on Xbox if you play it.. |
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Ninja hit it right on the head pretty much and your reasoning for why you think you don't laugh anymore are absolutely a valid reason.
I'll give an example for that. One of my friends in middle school had a really abusive father, she would constantly stop herself from talking at time and would apologise for it. Turns out, he would tell her to shut up or people don't care what she thought, so if there was something she was talking about that peaked her interest, she would almost never finish that conversation and shut herself down. She would also flinch at the slightest sudden movement from anyone, which was clear that he would lash out for no apparent reason at her. So it's a very reasonable thought to say that your family telling you that you were too loud would make you want to silence yourself a little -- even if it's years after the fact. As for possibly growing out of it, I'll use me as an example. I've always had a serious demeanor since I was a kid, but I still knew how to be a kid, laugh, smile and act like an idiot when in the mood. Now, I don't know if it started changing when stuff in my life at a younger age started flipping on me or if it was just 'time' to grow out of it, but as I started growing up from my early teens even until now, it's pretty much gone. I know how to make a quick joke at someone else's expense and I'm very quick on my feet when it comes to playful shit talking, but if you were to look at my face when doing it, there's no reaction to it. I get told constantly I have an outstanding poker face because it's just a blank expression cruising along for the ride. I still find stuff funny, just instead of the very rare laugh or smirk, it's basically just an exhale of air through the nose or a simple "pfft/hmm/mmh." The only times I've really been told that I have actually shown a positive emotion around people when I was in my mid to late teens either high off god knows what or the few times I actually get shit faced drunk even now, other than that, nothing. I've had my ups and downs in life, I've had my depressions and suicidal thoughts in the past, but I firmly don't believe that took away me being able to laugh or smile, I really believe I just grew out of it and how I was a child being more serious that most, kind of just took over, with some personal beliefs that really don't make sense to a lot of people and are rather reckless, which makes laughter and those things as a useless emotion to me. I don't know if there's any fixes, that would definitely be something to talk about with a professional. I personally don't want to fix it because I don't see a need to do so; however, I know others are different. Revisiting past memories that used to make you visually happy/laugh may be a starting point or finding out the true root cause of it could also be the area to tackle and change it. |
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