Rantuh, help me with a friend? Advice?
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Hello I don't ever make posts like this but..., so I have this friend who's in a situation now at first, I was somewhat understanding, although then as she told me more of what was going on, I became rather worried and more scared for her safety & you know etc.
I have my personal opinion on this whole thing and she knows that, but I'm curious on what you guys would do & how you'd handle this. Okay so she's been dating this guy for a few weeks now, it turns out he has a child, which you know that's okay. but then of course the mother is involved, now of course that's not a problem. I recently found out that both him & the mother of the child sleep in the same bed, she's struggling with her own problems & he's trying to do the right thing and let her stay with her until she gets on his feet. Now, I respect that, but here's where it gets dirty. I recently also found out that not only are they sleeping in the same bed, but he sent her < the gf > a video of him and the mother having sex. then I also found out that this guy seems to be rather uh, controlling for say if I and her are talking, he has his set rules on what she can and cannot do, eg if we're playing a game he must be able to join if he wants & he has to be able to have access to hear us. we was speaking last night, this is what really pushed me over the line, he stated that there's a lot of girls that wanna **** him & that one of those girls are struggling and he wants to move her into his house with him, now you're thinking yeah you know he's a nice guy, but I can see a lot of shit which includes him mostly reacting more to sexual stuff, this guy wants to meet up with my friend in about a week, for you know the plain reason in my eyes is for sex, I'm more afraid he'll attempt or do something to her, because from what I've been told, < which I cannot mention alot of it > because you know... but here's some more information, so he got really mad at her because she was speaking to me, to a point where he technically broke up with her, now of course her being her she took him back, now we're in this situation where he's trying to pin the blame on her, although everything she has done or does do, he's done even know she's done nothing wrong which so ever it always seems to no matter what happens it comes back to me, like it's my fault like I've done something for him to be mad, I get it I'm sexy ;) that's a joke, dont kill me. - but he doesn't seem to see where he is wrong, he's always trying to twist and pull on her strings to make her think oh shit maybe I have done something wrong? Listen, there's a lot more to this, but I wanna know what you guys think based on what I've mentioned.. and maybe I'll throw some more information later, but this is more for the sake of me giving a shit and not wanting her to be in a situation where she's stuck and manipulated, she's an amazing person and personally I think she deserves a lot better, because she's one hell of a person. I forgot to add, he literally blames her for everything & acts like oh she's doing something wrong for talking to someone, but he also took the time to " help his other girl friend " by taking food to her house, yet doesn't seem to make an effort what so ever, at least from what I see. |
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| totally insane. i would maybe just try and get out of the situation. but notifying is nice also. |
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heynadine2016 wrote totally insane. i would maybe just try and get out of the situation. but notifying is nice also. That's why I've made this post, I've spoke to her about it but, you know.. I feel if more people are like you're right about this, it may help :/ |
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| Lmao he is living with his baby momma their still together your friend and this other girl on the side are just side pieces for him |
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Chat wrotewell, i think your right. and going about this in the right directionheynadine2016 wrote totally insane. i would maybe just try and get out of the situation. but notifying is nice also. |
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Trevor wrote Lmao he is living with his baby momma their still together your friend and this other girl on the side are just side pieces for him he seems to have ALOT of excuses for all of his actions, the one with his " baby momma " is that she's in a place where she's not working & or bla bla, so he's trying to help her out for the sake of the baby, which is what I could get behind and understand but the whole " sleeping in the same bed " I'd sleep on the floor if I was him, I don't work.. he does, I make enough money to house that bitch. |
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Sounds to me like buddy is an all around ass hat and isn't looking for a serious relationship.
Personally if the person I was talking to sent me a video of themselves having sex with someone in their past life, I wouldn't be talking to them anymore let alone take them back.. I dunno what your friends deal is with this fella but she should probably look elsewhere.. |
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Chat wroteTrevor wrote Lmao he is living with his baby momma their still together your friend and this other girl on the side are just side pieces for him Doesn't explain him sending a video of them having sex and claiming it was in the past truth be told it was probably really recent |
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I see two options.
You have a sit down with her. And talk it out. Let her know everything you have on your mind. If you have to, have someone else set up the "meet" so the overbearing shitbag boyfriend doesn't find out. Two... you leave it be. I really dont know what else you could do. This is obviously a terrible choice but a choice none the less. She has to see everything for herself and come to the conclusion that this "man" is not good for her. |
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She should get the hell outta there, shes just allowing him to cheat.
Side note: I get vibes you like this girl yourself. |
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