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Okay serious topic here guys, just seeing if people are on the same boat as my friends.

I've been with my girlfriend officially since January but have been seeing each other since early November last year..

Accidents happen and it turns out I'm going to be a Dad come November time this year and to be honest this is the best news to ever grace my ears, I'm completely over the moon. This girl (even in such a short space of time) is the best thing that has ever happened to me and makes me feel comfortable and accepts me entirely for who I am. I've had my fair share of psycho girlfriends but I feel in my heart that this one is the one.

We are currently living together and have been for a couple months. She already has a son, so we're hoping for a girl to complete the family. I also should add that I'm 23 and she's 24.

SO, my friends said that was too soon to be happening but that's life and if I'm happy they're happy etc but I want to propose to her. End of this year, after our little boy/girl is here. That'll have been 10 months. My friends are all saying 'far too soon' etc but I'm going to follow my heart and live my life and put a ring on the finger of the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life.

Has anyone else felt the way I do? Would be lovely to hear any stories.

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Whatever makes you happy bro, just go with it!

You don't need to listen to other people bro, just do what makes you happy!
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Honestly at the end of the day mate, all that matters is that you don't dip, which by the sounds of things you're happy with and that shouldn't really matter, at the end of the day as many months as you've been together, you could both know each other more than anyone... It's never really to late ( personally, I don't think so ) Although at a young age it is understandable on why people would say it, it comes down to what you want and if you're happy with the decision you took the risk and you're the one being the man and sticking in there, which shows how loyal and dedicated you are to this girl and for that I say respect.


Alot of people get girls pregnant then dip, which shows a lot about them what you've said above, shows you're happy with the result and care and possibly love this girl
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Go with the feeling in your heart. At the end of the day it comes down to you , you have the last say.
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I got engaged when I was 18 bud, shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks if she's the one, do what you gotta do.
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Go with what you want no one else its your life your decision if you hapoy go with what your heart tells you

And congrats
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I was 19 when the "girl" i was talking to was 23. I got her pregnant out of expecting her to be on "birth control". I was wrong, but I stepped up and wanted to do my best to be the father of my kid. I moved to a different state to be with the girl. Long story short, this july will be 10 years we have been married and have three wonderful kids. Most figured i was jumping on a ship that wasnt worth my time and i shouldnt move to be with a girl just cause she has my kid.

We have our ups and downs but i thank God every day for blessing me and opening up my heart and to feel a connection and grow with this woman.

She is my rock no doubt. Do you and listen to your heart.

God bless bro
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I'm a dad myself to a 3 year old and I'm 21. It doesn't always work out with the partner but at least you'll have a son/daughter to cherish
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While Marriage is great, you still dont know everything about this person. Nothing is going to be any different after other than you are legally binded to each other. I really recommend you wait because you have only learned so much about the person. Congrats on the baby but trust me wait it out until you pass the Butterfly stage of the relationship. Especially if you guys haven't even had your first argument.
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Go with your gut feeling, at the end of the day it's only you who's going to find out if it's the correct decision for you.


You're in the predicament I've been in, I got with my current girlfriend (Ashleigh) Who is the same age as me, when me and Ashleigh first met she had a son and I was well aware of the child in the situatuion and I sat and spoke to my mum about it and just said to her What should I do? I wasn't ready to step up to become a "father figure" but at the same time if I wanted to be in a relationship with Ashleigh then I need to, so I decided I'd do anything I can for the child, so comes a couple of months after and everything is going great, he never called me "Daddy" at first, and never forced it onto him either (He was 6 months old when we first met)

Around 7 months into the relationship Ashleigh and I find out we're having a baby and this would be a great step for us in the relationship and I asked her to inform the first babies father about the situation and see if he wanted contact with his son, which he declined but wanted a DNA test.

So we have the DNA test and find out he is indeed the father as we all knew he was, so he still declined the chance to step up and become a father before my child was born, so I stepped up and allowed the child to call me Daddy, and this is when the father duties, the boyfriend duities and the family head started, I absolutely love it and would NEVER look back,

So with my experience in full, I would go with your own gut feeling, and NEVER ever regret anything.

Go for it. Propose to her, I did and It's all worked out for me!
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