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Okay im not sure where to start with so here goes nothing.

I've been with this girl let's call her Chantelle for around 1 & half a year, never been any issues whatsoever until very recently.

I've never had any issues with her being friends with other guys far from controlling however im slightly insecure due to past relationships. She's had plenty of boys as friends and never thought about it, nor bat an eye. Recently she became friends with a work colleague (her workplace) called lets say charlie. Now, around a month ago she came back to me talking about him saying he's funny, very banterous & a good guy, reminds her of her best friend who she doesnt talk to mucg anymore who she also used to love. me being me asked if she thought he was attractive in which she replied no he's ugly, then i began to forget. A week passes & she's constantly talking about him wothout knowing she is. I again asked the same question in wgich she said "hes not bad" & then go on to ask (stupidly) if she'd get w him if she was single without hesitation she said yes.

After this mishap, i began to overthink. Righly so. However, things got weirder, thy were messaging on instagram. I told myself it was just me overthinking. Last night she said his name in her sleep, which drove me to look at her insta messages. I merely scanned through snd saw flirty messages. I slept downstairs.

Now im sat on the opposite couch to her not talking and she has no clue whats the matter with me..


Update: thank you all for the help, lots of respect <3

i confronted her & im now left at home like an awkward potato. So, she moved from london 3/4 years ago (200 miles away) with no friends and family so she's saying he's a friend as shes got no one other than me to talk to. She cried a little snd told me she loves me & could never hurt me.. but I still feel that underlying thought of "but wouldn't she really?"..


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Might wanna confront her?, or maybe ask questions or something but most likely asking that stuff could end your relationship but that's not right if she be flirting with other dudes while in a relationship with someone, hope all goes well.
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She shouldn't be giving anyone else more attention than you and she certainly shouldn't be almost bragging about how funny he is etc to you. It's not controlling at all to tell them how you feel and that you don't want them to always go on about them

It should be out of respect she should only be about you, yeah sure have a few guy friends but there's no need to go on and on about him. She would be the same if it was you, tell her you don't like it
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Dalm wrote She shouldn't be giving anyone else more attention than you and she certainly shouldn't be almost bragging about how funny he is etc to you. It's not controlling at all to tell them how you feel and that you don't want them to always go on about them

It should be out of respect she should only be about you, yeah sure have a few guy friends but there's no need to go on and on about him. She would be the same if it was you, tell her you don't like it


I did confront the issue last week, i assumed we was okay.. then the messages tipped it over the edge.
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End it before you're in too deep, she's not loyal mate
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instead of asking questions that make you feel concerned try being more direct, she may be answering too honestly out of the context of you. But yes you need to be straight up bro. Dont sit there and get into your feelings suffering, you need to protect number one
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Get her to tell you the truth man

That don't seem cool tho
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Your getting played man
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Hate to say it man but she's not the one you need to be messing with. Cheating isn't just physical acts, it's also communication things, such as the flirting back and forth. Plus she admitted she would get with him if she was single. Sorry man
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The fact she said she would get with him if she were single is a serious red flag. To be honest I wouldn't trust her too much if I were you, especially since she's flirting with him.
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