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I need some very serious advice. I haven't been on this website In years but felt a forum would be the best place to turn to. Me and my girlfriend have been dating just over 7 months now and we are both Virgins. On Saturday, we came very close to genuinely losing it to each other but ultimately things didn't happen but since telling her that I don't want her telling anyone I found out she has. I checked her phone when she went to the toilet earlier cause I'm always scrolling through other people snap stories on her phone and it turns out she has messaged another boy about what happened on Saturday who she used to go to school with during secondary school. We are both 16 and in out final year of senior school. How should I aprounch her about this? Appreciate any help
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You're in the wrong for going through her phone bud.
You clearly don't trust her, so find someone you do.
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The thing is I do trust her and I know how it sounds but I did just click on the message on his rather than his story and I saw the word virginity and saw the messages
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Maze wrote You're in the wrong for going through her phone bud.
You clearly don't trust her, so find someone you do.


This, and this exactly.

Even if you claim to trust her, what you did is still an invasion of privacy. How do you think she'll react when you approach her about something that you only could have found out about by going through her phone?

Also, I'm friend with a girl that tells me shit about her and guys all the time. It's just to vent. Just because you're her boyfriend doesn't mean you're the only guy she can speak to privately.
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Yeah I guess and thank you so much wponx, I really do appreciate all the advice. I do agree though I was in the wrong for reading the message, just kind of wish she told me she was telling someone after I said I didn't want to
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wponx wrote
Maze wrote You're in the wrong for going through her phone bud.
You clearly don't trust her, so find someone you do.


This, and this exactly.

Even if you claim to trust her, what you did is still an invasion of privacy. How do you think she'll react when you approach her about something that you only could have found out about by going through her phone?

Also, I'm friend with a girl that tells me shit about her and guys all the time. It's just to vent. Just because you're her boyfriend doesn't mean you're the only guy she can speak to privately.


But your private life should be kept just that, private. Not shared with another horny 16 year old boy.

If it was a genuine mistake and you was just clicking on stories (I've done it myself) and happen to accidentally see it, then sure confront her about it and tell her you don't want your business being aired to someone else.

I wouldn't make that much of a big deal out of it though, just explain to her how you feel.
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I could understand the mistake with the new snap update and you not wanting your personal life shared but ifeel you probably should of brought it up then cause now it's going to look like you don't trust her and we're going through her phone.
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I really do appreciate all the comments, ha ks you so much. I do personally agree with Spartan and Allnutt though
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Despite you going through her phone, I'd call it quits on her. I'd personally not try with a chick who'd do that to me.
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She messaged another guy basically taking the piss out of you so get rid of her mate. You can find something better man, you dont wanna be with a girl thats messaging other guys ffs.
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