There's always this huge dilemma about a "pal" dating a friend's ex-partner; I believe that's nonsense. You nor anybody else has control over another human's love life, therefore a friend of yours can date whoever that person wants, including an ex-partner.

Now, I can understand that there is some sort of "moral code" between people nowadays in which "you can't look at a friend's ex"; if you follow that way of thinking, you still wouldn't be the shitty person. You were with her, you broke up with her, "old pal" swooped in and had a relationship with her; if anything, he would be "in the wrong" and you'd just simply be getting back with your ex.

Don't even worry about your friend if you want to go for it, honestly. If it bothers him, he needs to grow up and move on.

Trust me, if you let her go now you will kick yourself later

Surprise her with sweet things or dates. win that girl over before its too late my man

Nothing sucks harder than having that one that got away

if you had her first, and he got with her then he doesn't have the right to get mad if you do.

See, my friends and I have had an agreement that if we wanted to date one of their ex's, we could. If you think you are a better match for her and its what makes you both happy, than he shouldnt care.

They tried dating and it didnt work.

I have a girlfriend that I love to bits (sorry for the cringe)

Let's say she was my ex but I still really loved her but she was with another guy that treats her right and she's happy, I would have to let her be with him, I would not try to win her over because I would love to see her happy even if she wasn't happy with me.

Back to the question

Are you an asshole for wanting to peruse her regardless?

I know how love is and how much a person can mean to you. You would do anything to get back with them. So no you're not an arsehole.

Good luck buddy hope things turn out the way you want them to!

at the end of the day he did it, for one, so who cares.

and for two, if you like her screw him, for real the term "bros before hoes" isnt real
in the real world your wife/partner will be there 100% of the time the bros wont. if you think you have a connection with this girl that you want to get back, go for it. 100%

I think if you truly still have feelings for her, then I don't see the harm in trying to get her back.

More power to you, buddy! Good luck!

It's kinda sad you left her though and want her back however, I;m not going to call you an asshole or anything. At that time maybe you wasn't sure about things but if you really want her back then to me it means you love her. So I would try and go for her again.

Personally from my point of view... she doesn't sound like relationship material... she seems more of an object that you wanna win, personally i would look in the see as their are plenty of fish in the sea, everyone in their life has that one girl it's if your are willing to put that aside and move on.

Yea Id give it a go bro