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Spoken to alot of friends recently and obviously they have there per say on situations and stuff but I've been apart of this community for a while now and I need some help. Please be brutally honest as I need some advice to get over my EX. Context is below I'd appreciate any replies
*If you could take the time to read all the context it will be so appreciated*
So me and my EX split up over a month ago. We was together for around a year and a half. Was an amazing relationship and she was also my first ever love I opened up to this girl and she did the same with me. It was one of those relationships where we was best friends and everything was just going great and she was happy. Towards the end of our relationship thins just weren't working out and we both became unhappy and never actually did anything to make these things right.
Anyway, she doesn't really have any boy friends because she's just a girly girly but she did occasionally get on with the one guy lets call him A. Anyway throughout our relationship she never saw anything in A, and we would go to college and she would see him and go to parties etc but there was never an inclination that she ever liked him whilst we were together. Anyway, when we broke up all of her friends were saying that the best way to get over me was to "get under someone else" as in start dating someone else. We'd only been split up a few weeks. What I can't understand is that multiple of her friends have done this when they ended it with there ex and she would always persistently say to me, I would never do that to you because It's so wrong and I care about you too much.
Anyway she's basically started dating this guy and as I'm still healing It's so hard to get over it. I see them everyday in college together acting like nothing happened. I know my ex really loved me but I can't see how she's acting like I was never in her life and that she's ready to just jump the gun. She also tried to text me saying she doesn't hate me but that she's told everyone she hates me alot but that she's in love with this new guy after only three weeks!
I know it's easier said that done because once you split up with your ex you never really have to see them again but I have to put up with her and this guy on a daily basis. I don't want her back I want to clarify that. I just feel as if though everything's hard for me at the minute but she's finding everything easy and she's extremely happy. She keeps claiming It's the happiest she's ever been which in way she's trying to say being with me was the worst shes ever been but throughout our honey moon period of our relationship was the exact same as what she's having now.
The guy is the complete opposite to me in every way. I can't help to think if she's trying to get into some sort of rebound relationship or whether she's needing the comfort for the pain she's going through to distract her from getting over it by being with somebody else. All of her friends are jumping on the band wagon like "you guys are so cute" and "you look great together" and it's just annoying to hear because this is my first every breakup. I don't know how to deal with things and it breaks my heart to see somebody i was with happy with somebody else whilst I'm here upset and hurting.
Any advice at all would be appreciated. Just be straight up, thankyou.
So me and my EX split up over a month ago. We was together for around a year and a half. Was an amazing relationship and she was also my first ever love I opened up to this girl and she did the same with me. It was one of those relationships where we was best friends and everything was just going great and she was happy. Towards the end of our relationship thins just weren't working out and we both became unhappy and never actually did anything to make these things right.
Anyway, she doesn't really have any boy friends because she's just a girly girly but she did occasionally get on with the one guy lets call him A. Anyway throughout our relationship she never saw anything in A, and we would go to college and she would see him and go to parties etc but there was never an inclination that she ever liked him whilst we were together. Anyway, when we broke up all of her friends were saying that the best way to get over me was to "get under someone else" as in start dating someone else. We'd only been split up a few weeks. What I can't understand is that multiple of her friends have done this when they ended it with there ex and she would always persistently say to me, I would never do that to you because It's so wrong and I care about you too much.
Anyway she's basically started dating this guy and as I'm still healing It's so hard to get over it. I see them everyday in college together acting like nothing happened. I know my ex really loved me but I can't see how she's acting like I was never in her life and that she's ready to just jump the gun. She also tried to text me saying she doesn't hate me but that she's told everyone she hates me alot but that she's in love with this new guy after only three weeks!
I know it's easier said that done because once you split up with your ex you never really have to see them again but I have to put up with her and this guy on a daily basis. I don't want her back I want to clarify that. I just feel as if though everything's hard for me at the minute but she's finding everything easy and she's extremely happy. She keeps claiming It's the happiest she's ever been which in way she's trying to say being with me was the worst shes ever been but throughout our honey moon period of our relationship was the exact same as what she's having now.
The guy is the complete opposite to me in every way. I can't help to think if she's trying to get into some sort of rebound relationship or whether she's needing the comfort for the pain she's going through to distract her from getting over it by being with somebody else. All of her friends are jumping on the band wagon like "you guys are so cute" and "you look great together" and it's just annoying to hear because this is my first every breakup. I don't know how to deal with things and it breaks my heart to see somebody i was with happy with somebody else whilst I'm here upset and hurting.
Any advice at all would be appreciated. Just be straight up, thankyou.
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It takes time. Just live your own life best you can and take measures so you can't contact her. In a few months this thread will look stupid to you.
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Or play osu until your good enough to do this
By that time it's been 7 years and she's probs married or something
By that time it's been 7 years and she's probs married or something
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You just gotta occupy time
If you work get more hours, make more money. Hangout with some friends. Enjoy your life bro
If you work get more hours, make more money. Hangout with some friends. Enjoy your life bro
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She may be hurt on the inside but smiling on the outside. Her friends are so immature if they are doing that infront of you. What I can say is think of it this way you are now single like most of us on here you are free to do what you like you can grow your character more whether that be joining the gym , working harder at your job/ getting good grades making more money etc. Just clear your head there is plenty of fish in the sea.
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Yeah sounds like a rebound bro like you said to get over you or hide her pain, because if she really loved you she wouldnt do that weeks after ending. same thing happened to me, loved eachother blah blah blah 2 weeks after breaking up she was dating someone else, turned out it was to try and make me jealous then when it didnt work she ended with him and tried to get back with me, lol
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There is no reason to trip over it. Sounds like shes trying to make you jealous and you should find some new girls to bring around her then. If she sees you've moved on she should leave you be.
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Like how did it end on good terms or bad terms?Id say best way to get over is just occupy yourself go out
and do stuff with mates whatever you want to do to get stuff off your mind.I think shes a bitch for playing with your feelings saying she wouldnt do this or that and then Say she hates you after she said she loves you.It might seem shes happy to you mate but trust me its probably all an act id say.
and do stuff with mates whatever you want to do to get stuff off your mind.I think shes a bitch for playing with your feelings saying she wouldnt do this or that and then Say she hates you after she said she loves you.It might seem shes happy to you mate but trust me its probably all an act id say.
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Honestly went through the same thing, I think we all have. I just learned to find other things to occupy myself. Yeah sometimes it still comes up once in a while, But if shes happy enough to be in another relationship, Then id say you should be happy for her (Not meaning that in a rude or annoying way, You can also find happiness again ) . Also, She could be just as hurt but not showing her feelings.
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Thanks to every single one of you that has replied really means alot.
I'm only 18 also so I have my whole future a head of me, It's just weird with it being my first ever relationship and we broke up on mutual terms really but went straight into no contact. We both just didn't seem happy anymore and that thing's weren't working like they were before it.
I've fully removed myself from social media now because I can't be bothered with all the stuff she's retweeting like "2018 is going to be SO much fun, nothing but good vibes and good company" and "this is the happiest i've been in forever" It's just a massive kick in the stomach because I don't take sh*t off nobody nor will I make her make me out to be a fool. Alot of stuff went on in our relationship in which she was in the wrong for and i got fuc*ed because I'm too much of a nice guy.
I'm only 18 also so I have my whole future a head of me, It's just weird with it being my first ever relationship and we broke up on mutual terms really but went straight into no contact. We both just didn't seem happy anymore and that thing's weren't working like they were before it.
I've fully removed myself from social media now because I can't be bothered with all the stuff she's retweeting like "2018 is going to be SO much fun, nothing but good vibes and good company" and "this is the happiest i've been in forever" It's just a massive kick in the stomach because I don't take sh*t off nobody nor will I make her make me out to be a fool. Alot of stuff went on in our relationship in which she was in the wrong for and i got fuc*ed because I'm too much of a nice guy.
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