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So I have always been shy since i was around 13 and never really developed social skills I was diagnosed with Social anxiety about a year ago and am now trying to alleviate some of the anxiety by facing my fears head on but I don't know where to start or even how to start a conversation with someone. How do you start a conversation with someone is it normal to just go up to someone and say hi, even if i do then what do i say next what happens then?

I know this really isn't the place but maybe someone could shed some light on this.

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Sorry to hear that, I recommend going up to them and starting with a simple hi, what's up?, Going to a Follow up that fits the conversation and progressing enough that eventually get them to say you're chill or something
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Alfa wrote Sorry to hear that, I recommend going up to them and starting with a simple hi, what's up?, Going to a Follow up that fits the conversation and progressing enough that eventually get them to say you're chill or something
So is it really that easy just saying hi is the hardest part for me because thats when my anxiety raise to an extreme level.
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For me it is, should be to you too be calm and trust as max as possible in yourself
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Usually to keep a conversation going, you gotta bring up subjects like that you both can talk about. For example, if you randomly see someone from school awhile back, bring up stuff like what theyve done from the last time you talked. If its a new person on like tinder or something, ask questions about them like about their life such as their interests or maybe their schooling. Im not no ladies man, im a shy guy too so this advice may not be the best.

Someone you bump into on the streets from high school:

You: hey Tom, long time no see man.

Tom: Yea ipv6, we havent seen each other since high school man.

You: holy cow man, its been so long. What have u been up to all these years.

Tom: after high school i went to university and just been taking some art classes since my paths heading down that way. Finally got am job too after searching forever. Whats up woth you?

You: ive just been taking a break the past years after high school. Currently working fulltime at subway but looking to get my ass back into school. Probably stupid law since i want to be a cop.

Tom: thats amazing man. Seems like you you got your life somewhat planned out. I gotta run or ill miss this meeting im attending. Maybe we can catch up some more, coffee alright?

You: for sure man, just give me a call whenever youre free.


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Alfa wrote For me it is, should be to you too be calm and trust as max as possible in yourself
So you don't get extremely nervous around or talking to someone new because i don't know how to get ride of this anxiety that's the problem.
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Be calm my dude, don't get anxious and be friendly, for me making friends is an everyday deal, I get nervous some times too but you can overcome anything you want
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Tom wrote Usually to keep a conversation going, you gotta bring up subjects like that you both can talk about. For example, if you randomly see someone from school awhile back, bring up stuff like what theyve done from the last time you talked. If its a new person on like tinder or something, ask questions about them like about their life such as their interests or maybe their schooling. Im not no ladies man, im a shy guy too so this advice may not be the best.

Someone you bump into on the streets from high school:

You: hey Tom, long to no see man.

Tom: Yea ipv6, we havent seen each other since high school man.

You: holy cow man, its been so long. What have u been up to all these years.

Tom: after high school i went to university and just been taking some art classes since my paths heading down that way. Finally got am job too after searching forever. Whats up woth you?

You: ive just been taking a break the past years after high school. Currently working fulltime at subway but looking to get my ass back into school. Probably stupid law since i want to be a cop.

Tom: thats amazing man. Seems like you you got your life somewhat planned out. I gotta run or ill miss this meeting im attending. Maybe we can catch up some more, coffee alright?

You: for sure man, just give me a call whenever youre free.
Thanks but lets say i see someone I use to go to high school with and we start talking i will get so nervous i cant think straight and i have a hard time making eye contact for some strange reason.
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Alfa wrote Be calm my dude, don't get anxious and be friendly, for me making friends is an everyday deal, I get nervous some times too but you can overcome anything you want
"Be calm my dude, don't get anxious and be friendly" Well that easier said then done i get nervous around some of my own family. I might see a psych again but im not going to go on any of those BS meds maybe i will try congenital behavior therapy. I just dont know how to deal with this im so sick and tired of feeling this way. But its weird though i done have anxiety when im online or even meeting someone on xbox but face to face is when i get nervous.


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